A little about me.

I am 36.

Currently being treated for cancer. I am not going to lie, it is tough – so tough but my positive mind is what is carrying me through this.

I believe our minds are our biggest weapon and we need to nourish them daily along with our bodies and souls.

I love sunflowers, the ocean, my little fur baby Cruiz, eating mainly a plant-based diet, and living a relaxed lifestyle.

I spent many years of my twenties feeling trapped in a dark hole…so trust me when I say I know how depression feels. I was so depressed that I would cry myself to sleep some nights. I was thin, emotionally drained, extremely overwhelmed, and couldn’t see a way out. But I wanted a way out. I didn’t want to stay in that state, and I thank myself for that. I think the reason being is because deep down I knew I had strength. I knew I had fight in me!

Knowing I had this inner strength then sparked my determination not to live a life of depression. I know it’s not that easy for some, and I know that the pressure from society, from friends and family, and from the pressure you put on yourself is heavy, but there is ALWAYS a way out! There is always someone who will walk beside you, catch you when you fall, and pop you back on track.

It’s funny because I am now actually the happiest, I have ever been in my life, and then bam out of nowhere I get diagnosed with a disease that could quiet literally take my life away from me. But you know what, I know there is far more to life than letting that bring me down. I still get to see the sunrise every morning. I get to breathe in the air. I get to laugh with friends and family and eat yummy food. I am now in a place where darkness can no longer touch me, and I want you to know that you CAN be in that same place to.

This too shall pass…

Happiness Set Point 

Now I didn’t even know this existed, but as I was listening to it being described to me, I had a light bulb moment and realised this was a big issue of mine. I always had this feeling that I had a happiness barrier. No matter what I did, big or small, I didn’t seem to experience a greater deal of happiness…although the peak of happiness in that moment may be higher to other moments, it quickly went back to my happiness set point. I had always felt restricted and now I know it was because of my own mind setting restrictions.

So let me explain what your Happiness Set Point is.

It is a point of happiness you have subconsciously set for yourself. So, no matter what happens, whether it be a crappy situation or good, you will always return to your fixed set point of happiness.

However, the good news is that you can reset your happiness set point!

As you can see in the diagram, 50% of our happiness is GENETIC…meaning it’s hereditary and is part of our personality, 40% is INTENTIONAL…which means it is created from our thoughts, feelings, words and actions, and the remaining 10% is derived from LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES including your job, relationship status, level of wealth etc.

It will not matter if you change jobs a thousand times, or have millions of dollars, or are married, or going on  holidays (here or overseas) whenever you want, because if your ‘happiness set point’ is not high then your happiness will NEVER change with any of those things – it might fleetingly go up but it will always go back to the ‘happiness set point’ you’ve created.

However, the good news is that you can change your ‘happiness set point’ by making a conscious effort to change the way you think and feel about things, and to also change your actions and your words. By doing this you can raise your happiness set point by reprogramming your mind to a higher level of happiness and wellbeing! Repeating these changes every day will raise your ‘happiness set point’ to a new norm which means you will be HAPPIER.

When I started to appreciate the little things in life and let go of the stuff that really didn’t matter, I found joy in everyday life. I smiled more than I ever had before. My feelings were more real…I opened myself up which allowed my happiness level to change.

I now know that if I can be a much happier person then you can too! So, if you think that you have a ‘happiness barrier’ then choose to make some changes in your life starting right now! Before you know it, your happiness levels will change and everything in your life will begin to shift for the better.

Xx

Crystal