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Navigating Through Challenging Times

Navigating Through Challenging Times

Currently we are in unprecedented times and the whole world has been affected by a silent killer. For those of us who are currently going through cancer treatment, the Corona Virus has created a higher immediate threat, potentially building more stress on an already emotional roller coaster ride than a diagnosis creates. It is now more important than ever to maintain optimism in this ever-changing environment, a time where we need to go inwards to build our inner strength and calm our fearful minds.

Not since World War II over 75 years ago, have we had closures of businesses, lockdown and self-isolation enforced by the government. It is a little harder to comprehend when it is an invisible threat as opposed to the visible trauma war presents. The ever-changing laws and instructions from government can be unsettling and therefore adaptation can be confusing, especially when we are attempting to create some kind of structure under already abnormal circumstances dealing with cancer treatment.

Constant media coverage of this topic alone can create a huge amount of fear. A cancer diagnosis is scary enough, dealing with both can be monumental.

So how do we get around this, how do we navigate both a diagnosis and the threat COVID19 and maintain equilibrium in body mind and spirit? First determine where fear is coming from both internally and externally. The media produces a huge amount of fear, so the first step would be to switch off the TV and step away from the constant reminder. These are scary and uncertain times but the big news outlets aren’t helping, they are fear mongering with the constant reporting.

If you must stay abreast of what is happening, give yourself just one hour a day to watch the news. Remember if we have to look really hard, there are always more reasons to hope than fear.

The best way to deal with this virus itself is prevention, self-isolation, washing of hands and taking immune boosting supplements approved by your doctor, juicing and eating healthy is a start to make some positive changes. This also includes maintain a healthy mindset, high stress has been linked to low immunity and this is an extremely important aspect to monitor. Being active in prevention, brings a sense of control but also sometimes all you can control is how well you let go of control.

The lockdowns are an opportunity to slow our lives down and spend time with our family. It is a privilege we may not see again in this lifetime. It is an opportunity to rest, reset and prioritise your purpose and people in your life.

You’re not stuck at home, you’re safe at home, just one word can change your attitude.

Will we ever get this opportunity again in our lifetime where we are on enforced downtime? Use the time to be creative and do the things you’ve not been able to do due to lack of time constraints. Whilst there will be moments of frustration, spend the time to re-evaluate your life and refocus.

Daily meditation is a powerful tool proven to reduce feelings of stress, anxiety, lower blood pressure and boost the immunity. There are many free guided mediations available online through YouTube and similar sources on the internet.

It is a way to train your mind to redirect your thoughts to a more positive mindset and reduce stress which in turn controls the fear that replays over and over. It is the unknown which is scary, but what if you determine your future by manifesting it through deliberate thought? Many studies have concluded that it is within the mind where our greatest strength of all lies. Spending time seeing your future ahead of you where you are on the other side of this diagnosis and living a healthy happy life.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change”

Cancer can be seen as an opportunity to change your life and that which no longer serves you. Improving your lifestyle and diet with more fruits and vegetables to boost your immune system, exercising and becoming mindful is a great place to start.

Write a list of ten things that make you happy and keep the list on the fridge to help remind you of what you can do to lift your spirits when on the going gets tough. Perhaps a candle lit bath, meditation, watching a comedy, cooking, yoga, painting, photography, writing, phone a friend, dancing, exercise, knitting, whatever it is that brings joy to you.

Surround yourself with new loving and empowering people.
Empower yourself.

I have utilised my cancer journey to completely rebuild my life from the ground up and look at it like a gift, a second chance at life to change what wasn’t working for me previously.

Adversity is an opportunity for growth and gratitude.
Life will go back to normal, a new normal and one that will take adjusting to.
If you start now with a different mindset to the challenges of both cancer and the lockdowns, you have a greater chance of adjusting to the new normal.
Visualise your new future of creating all that you have dreamed of, if not now, when?

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Changes to boob buddies for 2020!

To all my friends

After close to five amazing years, providing free in-home counselling to children and adults affected by cancer, I’ve decided to make a few changes to boob buddies.

One of the changes will be to have regular posts, written by myself and others, to provide invaluable information that will help people navigate their way through their treatment and beyond – sadly, many people find that once their active treatment has finished, they feel even more stressed! This is such an important time in the healing process, and yet up to date little research has been conducted on it. So once again I decided not to stand on the periphery and merely talk about something that I believe should change, but rather to actively do something to implement the change.

Hence, at the moment I’m in the midst of conducting research and writing a medical journal with Dr Chinedu Simeon Aruah – current Head of Department Radiation and Clinical Oncology National hospital Abuja Nigeria and Lecturer at the University of Abuja, who I met in 2016 when I spoke at a medical conference in Dubai. Our paper is titled ‘Self-management: The umbilical cord between the cancer survivor and their allied medical team has been cut…now what?

Our collaborative research will enable us to do a comparative analysis between Nigeria (referred to as a third world country), and Australia (referred to as a first world country), to show the difference between the self-empowerment/self-management of the respective cancer survivors. The very factors that play a huge role in alleviating stress beyond treatment.

* For the purpose of this research the term ‘cancer survivor’ refers to a cancer patient who is no longer receiving active cancer treatment.

If you would like to help, and be a part of this invaluable research, please contact me.

Image of Doctor Chinedu Simeon AruahThis recent photo of Doctor Chinedu Simeon Aruah was taken at the 63rd United Nations General Assembly in Vienna, Austria September 2019, where he represented Nigeria.

 

 

 

Some of our future posts will discuss:

  • libido and sex,
  • gratitude…being grateful and how this allows you to celebrate the ‘present’ even when life is really challenging,
  • relationships…with others, but most importantly the relationship you have with yourself,
  • words and their effect…this will probably be a lengthy blog as I have so many thoughts about this and,
  • happiness…the happiness set point you’ve subconsciously set for yourself.

*Please contact me if you have a topic, you’d like us to talk about.

As I mentioned to someone the other day, I believe that the more people who ‘join together’ to try to help others the more effective it can be.

More news on other changes to come!

So, for now, thank you for taking the time to read my first post for 2020.

And above all, I want to thank the people, affected by this insidious disease, who have invited me into their lives. I feel beyond blessed. Not only does each one of you remind me just how precious time is, you also show me the what the true meaning of ‘gratitude’ is.

Xx

Barb Wood

Founder & CEO boob buddies
Oncology Psychotherapist
Global Keynote Speaker
Author
Educator
International Award Recipient

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Our Founder

Barb Wood, CEO & Founder of boob buddies Inc., is an Oncology Psychotherapist committed to empowering children and adults with a life-limiting illness, and their families, through truth, love, and laughter. During the most vulnerable chapter of their life she brings, empathy, respect, humility, and gratitude.

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Our Mission

boob buddies Inc. aims to empower by providing light in times of darkness.
Our vision is to ‘take the scary away’ so that all children and adults, regardless of age, gender, race, or ethnicity, can find peace within and beyond their suffering.

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Welcome

boob buddies Inc. has been established as a charity to provide professional gratis in-home oncology psychotherapeutic support (Gi-hops) to children and adults in the most vulnerable chapter of their lives – a time when medicine can no longer cure and a once life-threatening illness has become a life limiting illness.